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My brother got involved with a welfare mommy. She has two different kids both different fathers. My brother has a ok job at a factory making 40k but ever since he meet her she had him go into debt big time, buy buying a 35k SUV and put it in both names, house with only him on the loan, but both on the Title. Plus she had him get a 7k engagement ring, but she dose not want to get married soon because of her government help. She apparently gets 1500 a month, plus free health care and she goes to college for free. Well week before last they were over at our house for a bit a day before they came I won a visa gift card at work worth 2k. I got it as it came in its envolpe with pin# ect and set it on our desk in our office. Well a few days later after there visit i noticed it was gone, i looked everywhere. I was going to use it to take my husband to las vegas for his 30th B-day as I did not even tell my husband I won it. Embarrassed at work I have to ask for a new one, a few days later I leaned it had a balance of 4 dollars. Then I was advised to call the police, they learned someone withdrew the cash at a ATM, they looked at the tape and noticed the culpret put tape over the camera. The police said the case is screwed. On my my future sis in laws face book pages and say how she in my brother won big at a casino and bought a big TV and PS3 and she got a 300dollar tatoo with the winnings. I called my brother and told him congrats and told him how my gift card went missing. He imeditaly said me or Ashley did not take it, as i know thats what you are thinking. That day her kids where running into our office messing around and Ashley went into get them. I was talking to my mom and she told me they took her credit card and used it for gas around her back… I just dont know what to do here?

I’m 22 years old. I have no job and still live with my parents. I have tried to get a job yet nothing turns up in my favor. Strong possibility it’s because I’m in debt and also because I don’t try as hard and often as I should to look for employment.

My mom constantly tells me to get a job and help out with bills and stuff. I don’t have a problem with that and I don’t feel that I’m a lazy person. Well, I’ll admit that I may be lazy when it comes to actually looking for a job but around the house I clean a lot and take care of the pets. So it’s not like I do absolutely nothing to help out while I live off of my parents for free.

Currently, I’m just so tired of looking for a job. What’s the point anymore? I want to be independent but right now that’s not happening. I’ve had 4 jobs before so I know what it’s like to work hard. I’ve been to college and held a part time job at the same time which was the toughest thing to me I’ve ever done. No sleep barely and barely ever ate anything. Almost got in a car accident because I was driving while so sleepy. But I had to go to work…even if it killed me. Lol.

Anyway, I’m having a difficult time. Right now, I’m happy and content in my life. Could I be doing better? Of course but I’m not and I’m tired of thriving on the negative. I hear get a job from my mom, dad and brother. And my brother is 17 years old and has not even had his first job yet. My mom forced me to get a job when I was 16.

I definitely have issues with my brother getting away with not being scolded at for not having a job but I do. But I’m 22 and that is understandable but I feel like my parents focus all their attention on me. I’ve always had negative feelings towards my brother when we were younger. He got away with not doing anything to help around the house but I never did. It frustrates me and I been feeling that I want to give up. I don’t care anymore, about a job, about being independent, about what anyone thinks of me.

But I would like advice on how to motivate myself to become independent. I am planning to go back to school. So hopefully this opportunity will help me and my dilemma. But no matter how hard I try what if I still can’t find a job? I wonder would my parents get to the point of kicking me out if I don’t eventually find a job?

My mom always tells me that it is important for a young lady to be independent and I agree with her. But it’s just not happening for me and I’m sad because my parents think of me as lazy. I want to do all the right things and make them happy and proud of me but I easily get so discouraged my feelings hurt.

So what’s a girl like me to do?

I’m 22 years old. I have no job and still live with my parents. I have tried to get a job yet nothing turns up in my favor. Strong possibility it’s because I’m in debt and also because I don’t try as hard and often as I should to look for employment.

My mom constantly tells me to get a job and help out with bills and stuff. I don’t have a problem with that and I don’t feel that I’m a lazy person. Well, I’ll admit that I may be lazy when it comes to actually looking for a job but around the house I clean a lot and take care of the pets. So it’s not like I do absolutely nothing to help out while I live off of my parents for free.

Currently, I’m just so tired of looking for a job. What’s the point anymore? I want to be independent but right now that’s not happening. I’ve had 4 jobs before so I know what it’s like to work hard. I’ve been to college and held a part time job at the same time which was the toughest thing to me I’ve ever done. No sleep barely and barely ever ate anything. Almost got in a car accident because I was driving while so sleepy. But I had to go to work…even if it killed me. Lol.

Anyway, I’m having a difficult time. Right now, I’m happy and content in my life. Could I be doing better? Of course but I’m not and I’m tired of thriving on the negative. I hear get a job from my mom, dad and brother. And my brother is 17 years old and has not even had his first job yet. My mom forced me to get a job when I was 16.

I definitely have issues with my brother getting away with not being scolded at for not having a job but I do. But I’m 22 and that is understandable but I feel like my parents focus all their attention on me. I’ve always had negative feelings towards my brother when we were younger. He got away with not doing anything to help around the house but I never did. It frustrates me and I been feeling that I want to give up. I don’t care anymore, about a job, about being independent, about what anyone thinks of me.

But I would like advice on how to motivate myself to become independent. I am planning to go back to school. So hopefully this opportunity will help me and my dilemma. But no matter how hard I try what if I still can’t find a job? I wonder would my parents get to the point of kicking me out if I don’t eventually find a job?

My mom always tells me that it is important for a young lady to be independent and I agree with her. But it’s just not happening for me and I’m sad because my parents think of me as lazy. I want to do all the right things and make them happy and proud of me but I easily get so discouraged my feelings hurt.

So what’s a girl like me to do?

Mannnnnnn!This is the fourth time. I helped three times before this. 12gs, 15gs, 17gs. I told her not to use them again. Sorry ASKED her not too. I had her cut them up in front of me to help me sleep at night. I pay everything at home and her car note too. All she has to do is take care of her own credit debt and manage it. Food, misc, kids stuff and etc… I got it. Just keep don’t let your debt out weigh your credit.
Long story short…..she reordered the cards because i said don’t cancel them. She helped her blood sucking mom and brother running up 30+ in debt. Didn’t tell me really anything until it was to late. So she got a JOB and she had never to complain to me about why she is working so late and crap. I said well u got debt i have no problem you working late and long hours.Why cant you help me ???????? I did help i said. But i told you not to run it up or I will not pay. I also have to service her car Too $$$$$$$ She was unable to even pay for a oil change. duh! She is still mad i can’t help her. I said I have debt too and if i stop paying mine to help you then i the whole family +5 others will suffer (4kids) because you ran up that debt or you spent money u never had anyway.She would always say i’m cheap. Well i save for just in case days….And retirement…..And kids…..I’m a disabled Vet also….I do what i can.
Then she asked well can WE fill for chapter 13?????????? Inside i died…………..What if she leaves me….Then im stuck with her debt also…..NOOOOOOOOT! So she wants to file Chapter 9. Not me! Sorry not me. Why not get another job? Man she complained more and more she don’t like to work….I want to stay home with the kids..Everything you can think of she said I rather be by myself. I was shocked and said wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. Well to me I thought of saying something and i didn’t. You can tell her nothing. She does not see that her actions put a strain on our relationship. She knew better but still wont take responsibility and take care of her debt. She wants the easy way out of it. But to do that she has to divorce me. If it was me I would get as many jobs i need to to get out of that hole. She doesn’t feel that way.
She also brought up to me she would go to escorting because men pay…..I said you crazy. So i said go ahead as long as im divorced from you. Then you can do whatever you want…
People…..I’m trying or yet i have tried so hard to show her how to handle these credit cards and debt. You can led a horse to water but u can’t make them drink.
I really think it’s to a point here after 15yr you would think we would of had that money thing worked out. Her thinking is so far off from mine. For her to put all of us in a money problem to which would hurt the family and to bring up divorce because she is careless with money. I can only do sooooooooooooooooooo much. I really think ….I don’t know….Should i lick my wounds and cut my loss. I just rather stayed a little money on a budget. Heck I didn’t know…………………….

have lost their car… I am in japan as I am in the military. I cant go home and get them oput of debt because they are supporting my brother. i talkd long and hard with my brother but i think it went right through his thick skull. How can i get him to see that he is ruining my parents retirement and life because he is too damn lazy to support his wife, mother in law and two kids? They got my grandmothers house free all they have to do is pay the mortage and they cant even do that. I dont have the money or time to deal with them. I work 12 hour shifts just to argue with them on the phone for four its taking up my life… i have done all the talking routes what is left to do??? Please any advice woud be great…

My husband and I always disagree about how to handle Christmas presents for our boys. My husband does everything big and wants every Christmas to be memorable. I am happier with a more modest Christmas and hate paying off Christmas debt the rest of the year.

Our boys are 13, 11 and 2. Though we have a Christmas club account that had 00, we’ve already tapped that out. I’m ready to be done, but husband still wants more. He’s already picked out new ski jackets which will run us around 0 and was talking about needing to go to the mall.

We spent 0 on our toddler, which I find excessive. Our older boys got ski passes, new skis, boots, bindings and gear, video games and movies and some new school clothes, altogether totaling 80.

I get sick when I think of dropping over a thousand dollars on Christmas presents for my kids. My husband has a point, however, about how we do want the boys to be able to ski and that skiing is just very expensive.

My problem is that, only our older son really needed new ski gear this year as he is headlong in puberty and having constant growth spurts. My husband thinks it isn’t fair to get our older boy cool new stuff if we don’t get cool new stuff for our middle son as well.

While I sort of agree in principle, my parents always taught us: life isn’t fair, you won’t always get stuff at the same time your siblings do, but you’ll always get what you need when you need it. I think this is a better lesson for our kids, but husband came from a much better off family than I did. His Christmases were always extravagant and he and his brother always received the same presents more or less, whether they needed them or not.

So, long story short, my questions are:

1) How much do you spend on Christmas each year?

2) If you have multiple children, do you worry about keeping it all equal or do you focus more on filling needs?

3) Do you and your spouse/partner share the same philosophy on gift giving and, if not, how do you overcome that?

4) Are you willing to break out the charge card at Christmas?
I’m glad to hear that I’m not scrooge! (or at least the only one).

My husband has a big heart. He loves to see them smile on Christmas. We also always donate old toys to family/friends in need or at our church’s Christmas outreach. We also spend part of our Christmas volunteering at the local Salvation Army, so our boys do know how good they have it!

Our boys are not this spoiled the rest of the year. Mom usually runs the finances and the buying; dad’s only really involved on holidays.

I think I’m going to put my foot down on further Christmas spending. I tell him every year that the Christmas club is it, and every year he manages to sneak a few "extra special" presents in.