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I am a 35 year old woman and I don’t work. No one would hire me because I haven’t been employed for several years now. I live with my father, her gf and their kids. I dont receive any governent support and financially depend on my dad and use credit cards. I have amassed a huge school loan (50K) since I went to graduate school as well. I just babysit my half sisters and brother but I don’t want this life anymore. My dad does care for me since he does want me to move out and find a nice and stable guy, so I feel pressured to do so, but deep down I have virtually zero interest in being in a relationship.

Sometimes I feel like ending it all, and I always cry in my sleep. I feel like I am a disappointment to my family. I just wish to find a good job so I can move out and be financially independent and debt free. I dont know what to do anymore I feel like I am stuck in a rut.

I guess I want advice on how to get out of this rut and start my life. Should I get a loan and move to the midwest and try my luck there in finding a job? Or join the military/army/marines/airforce/navy or anything in the gov’t that will forgive my school loans, but I think I’m too old for that.. Or do I have a chance to do that still?

I dont have any friends to talk about this so I appreciate any advice that you can give me. Thank you

My parents are going through a really bad divorce- actually, they divorced 5 years ago, now they’re still fighting. I now have anxiety and depression that I am trying to deal with, but they are to busy fighting to notice that my problems are really bad…. I mean my mom noticed that my mental health was crap now, but she said if I want it to be solved, I have to tell my dad cause he’s the one ruining my life.
Also, I can’t talk to my friends because all of my close friends don’t have divorced parents, and they say they are depressed or stuff when they have a teeny fight with their siblings. I live my life worrying if I will be okay, if my mom will abandon us or kill herself, if my dads money problems will ever get solved (+100 000$ debts), I am always holding back tears, I have become a lot less social, I used to be a straight A student and my grades are shooting down, border failing all of my classes.
I have a friend, she’s not my best friend, but one of my very close friends, and her mom offered that I could live with them. I know that I would be better suited there, that I could overcome my depression, and become more relaxed. Because right now the only time I feel truly happy is when I am with the horse I ride, and I am thinking about half-leasing him, but again, money problems mean that I can barely horseback ride once a week, so I would have to find the 300$ to half lease on my own.
So parents, my question is, how would you feel if your kid decided to go live with another family?

P.S: I am 15 years old, and I am not just a spoiled brat who did not get her way. Also, don’t tell me I need to go see a therapist, talking is overrated and I can handle my issues fine on my own.

My dad is Romanian, and he’s the most controlling and judgemental person I ever met..
He is mad that I’m not married or have kids.
He doesn’t like my glasses, he thinks I should have short hair and doesn’t like it long, anytime I’m home he says "You need to go out and find a husband".. He gets mad if I have my hands in my coat pockets, he will judge my makeup, he gets mad when I hang out with my friend and says "Don’t hang out with girls, go find a man".. I mean he judges everything I do!

I work one job 40 hrs a week, and the other job I work about 15 hrs a week.. I want to move out, but need to pay off credit card debt and get it out of the way so I can afford rent..

Please give me all the advice you can, how can I make more money on top of working 2 jobs..

I want to move out and have my own life..

I give my parents 100 dollars a month, cause that’s all my mom wants.. But my dad says to me "you live for free here"..

i’m so sick of it!

And I mean, like \, not love. If it weren’t for them being related to you, would they be the type of people you like? If they hadn’t raised you, would you still respect them?

Me, no. My mom is kind of horrible. She’s mean to others, only likes things done her. She overreacts, she’s rash and headstrong. When she wants something, she goes for it no matter the consequences and how it affects her family. She’s materialistic, vain, she cheats, she’s unfaithful and respects no one. She is unappreciative. She can’t handle her money, even though she does well, she’s always in debt because she’s a rash spender.
She’s authoritative, even when it makes no sense. She never apologizes, she never admits when she does wrong.
She’s also really old school, and strict and goes overboard. She is conniving, she likes talking behind people’s backs.

My dad is nice, but too meek and shy. Probably because of years of my mom saying how useless, incompetent, less of a man he is.

I cant stand her

I’m a pretty positive and ambitious person. I go into situations expecting the best, but most of it ends in tribulations. Seriously.

I was molested as a baby..yes a baby and later on 3 different guys. At home, school and church. One of them was arrested last year for raping and killing a teenager last year. I told my family but they wanted me to keep this a secret. It get’s weirder..but I digress.

My mom started spreading rumors about me after living with her for only a few months. This was my first time living with her at age 17. She kicked me out two days before my bday 12/17/2000 (winter in NY, yay) and tried to make me homeless by asking ppl not to let me stay with with them. I only talk to her now because of my sister..but i truly do hate my mother.

I used to be an only child..my dad decided to have kids when I was 21. So as selfish as it is I feel abandoned – my mom has replaced me with my sister and my dad with his kids. I was the love of his life. Now we hardly even talk.

I’ve been used and now I have about 30K cc debt. Because someone lied to me about their life and background and used me. So now i’m left with 90k total in debt (mortgage). I’m now 28 and was debt free until I met this U.S. Soldier. ugh!

I bought my own place at the age of 22. I’ve had to change states and within the last 2 yrs I have gone through 3 tenants. 1. was arrested for stealing from his job. 2. There was a fire which meant my tenant had to move 3. The other person just disappeared. Each time i’ve managed to get back on my feet…but this time it’s been 7 months since i’ve been paying rent and mortgage. I can’t sell because now my property value has tremendously decreased.

Funny thing is I don’t have any blemishes on my credit score. Except for high debt, but I’ve never been late on a bill. Other people also think that i’m happy but i’m not. I was suicidal before but as I got older, I’ve pushed through a lot of things. I know LIFE could be worst.

I just want to know how to cope when nothing goes right. Which obviously is everything. My life is actually worse than I mentioned.. I don’t believe in God, my reasons are obvious.

Any advice would be helpful.
Sorry about my errors.

I’ve been having a little dilema about the whole college application process. First off, let me describe the type of student I am. Even as young as middle school, my teachers were telling me that I was extremely mature for my age, and if I keep it up, I’m going to be extremely successful in Highschool. Throughout both middle school and high school, I’ve maintained between a 3.8-4.0 GPA. I don’t have one NY regents score below a 95, including Chemistry. My SAT score is 1920. When this year came along(senior) I’ve been getting a little stressed about the whole application process. When I went to give my form for the letter of reccomendation to one of my teachers, he said that he would write it and also made a point to talk to me in private. He told me that out of all of his students, I’m someone who he unequivically knows that I will be extremely successful. He said that there’s a difference between an A student and a good student, and I represent that quality. However, there is one tiny problem. My father is giving me a hard time about payments. Now, I don’t expect anything for free. I value my education and don’t expect him to pay for every expense, but he can afford to help me a LOT more than he is. At the start of highschool, he told me that most of my college would be payed for by him. It soon went to a lot of my college would be payed for, and now its suddenly half of my college would be payed for. It keeps going down. I’ve had a job for about a year or so now, but the expenses are overwhelming. We are far from financial trouble too. Last year, my father made around 0,000-0,000. We live in an extremely tiny house, have little to no debt(I think in total, we have only 0-00 credit card debt), and have NEVER taken any sort of expensive education. My dad just doesn’t like to spend money. He hoards it. I’ve never gotten anything from him for free, everything I worked hard for. I’m not trying to sound like a whiny brat, I just need advice and opinions on this matter. In my opinion, I think that he should help me as much as he can afford without sinking into a whole. The school I’m applying to only has a tuition cost of around ,000. I’m debating telling my father to just keep his money and get a student loan and go to school part time. I’m not lying when I say that he doesn’t want me to go to college. He would rather I work laborous jobs for my entire life if it meant him paying for anything, and that’s the god’s honest truth. Not that that’s a bad thing, I just am better off with my brain than my hands. I know I’ve ranted a bit, I just wanted to get a lot of these frustrations off my chest! This is a stressful time, and any advice is surely appreciated!

we have a debt of ,000
i think it’s because both my parents did not work consistently… if they were fired from a job or something, it would take years to get another one… plus also they overspent sometimes… especially on food…

so my mom couldn’t handle it all anymore and left with my little brother to her mother’s…. half way across the world

there would always be fights between my parents and she said she needs to get away from it all

she wanted me and my sister to come too but we said we are not going to leave our dad all alone to pay off the debts

she thinks we’re choosing him over her, which is really not true… we’re just not the type of people to leave someone when they’re in trouble…

how can i make my mom understand that no one has the luxury to just run away from all the mess they’ve created?
she says that it’s all my dad’s fault, he’s THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE and it’s his responsibility to provide for the family… !
I’m 20 yrs old and my sister is 15
and it’s been 3 months now that we haven’t seen them

plus now she has all these problems with her heart and we have to be careful with what we say and do… she’s already been to the hospital while she was away
we cannot file for bankruptcy for reasons I cannot mention here